With a little bit of this and a little bit of that:
Our First Vacation
It went very well! We had a great week full of boating, swimming, skiing, drinking, eating and relaxing (okay, as much relaxing as you can do with an 11 month old). Maddy coped well with her change in routine and learned she had to nap when she could and not always in her crib. She napped at least once a day on the patio boat. This was amazing and so nice. The only glitch came on our way home. We were towing my dad's ski boat when our truck broke down 30 minutes from home. Everything just shut off on the freeway-no power steering, no power brakes, no nothing. Luckily DH got it on the shoulder and we called for a tow. My parents were following us so Maddy and I went with them while DH waited to be rescued. It could have been an even worse situation so I am grateful it wasn't.
Car Troubles
Bad news on the truck though. Looks like it will cost over $1000 to fix. The computer was totally fried. Ugh! Oh and to make matters worse, the Honda wouldn't start the other day- just turned over and died try after try. We have two out of three cars in the shop at the same time and the only one left is a two seater. You can do the math. We had to borrow DH's dad's car. All this and I have been without a paycheck since June. I'm counting down to my next one at the end of this month.
Venting
I have always been hesitant to speak negatively of DH on this blog. I'm not sure why. It's anonymous after all, but I just don't feel comfortable doing it. I think it is because he really is an amazing husband and I feel bad bagging on him. Well, anyway, I'm going to do it now because maybe some of you SAHMS are in the same boat. I work 50% of the school year- two days one week, three days the other. I also work 50% at home. That's the part DH doesn't get. I always hear "Well you only work PART time." whenever anything isn't done around the house or I ask for help with a specific errand or chore. The other day it came to a head when he called from work and I was frustrated because Maddy was not napping. I was in a pretty negative mood. He told me that it hurts him when I am not happy staying at home with Maddy. He said that he is working full time so I can have time at home and I am not even grateful. Then he says "Most moms love being with their babies and love being home with them." That pissed me off. Of course I LOVE my baby and LOVE the time I have with her! It is also HARD WORK and I should be able to share my frustrations. I don't think he realizes how much it hurts when he says those things. I don't like people criticizing me as a mother. He isn't happy with his job and he's jealous I get to stay home more. I give him two weeks and he'd be begging to go back full time! Unbelievable.
11 Month Update
Wow. Eleven months! Almost a year! Incredible. I need to post some recent pictures of her. She is more and more fun everyday. She has been very sensitive lately with other children. She gets her feelings hurt easily if they take a toy from her or bonk her while playing. She gets a real pouty lip and crawls over to me sobbing. She wraps her arms around me and buries her head in my neck and cries. It is so darn cute! I try to foster independence and let her know she is okay without too much coddling. She is becoming much more affectionate- hugs and kisses abound. I fear separation anxiety and stranger anxiety is right around the corner. We have been doing well without them, but I see hints of their arrival. She's such a little person now! I love her so much. We are having a Labor Day Weekend BBQ for her first b-day. I haven't done anything to prepare except send out invites. Any cute first b-day ideas?
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Oh boy! I can relate. I am a mom to 3 sons. Ages 10, 7 and 3. I work 2 days per week. Hubby works 5. I have heard all of the same things you have said. If I don't get enough sleep, he thinks I can just nap in the afternoon. Yea right.
ReplyDeleteI do feel that I should do 'more' at home such as laundry, errands, cooking etc since I am home more. I am lucky that my husband will help when he gets home with the kids. Giving showers, bedtime, teeth etc.
I think every mom treasures the time she has with her kids. It doesn't mean that we won't complain from time to time. My husband has said that maybe he should work PT and me FT. He isn't happy with his job either. I tell him that it isn't just about watching/caring for kids. It means ALL the other things such as dental/doctor appts, school related stuff; sports practice; groceries, laundry, keeping track of all the schedules, lunches, packing backpacks...the list goes on and on! I try to ignore him when he starts to feel that maybe I am complaining when I shouldn't be. Every mom needs a mental break. For me it is going to work!! Your doing great as a mom. There are good and bad days, for sure!
I am not a SAHM but I am over the summer since I teach. Bailey is a MOMMY'S girl ALL the way! VERY clingy to me, won't go to bed with anyone but me, wants me 80% of the time. Zach makes comments to me like that too. Well, I'm sorry, I don't like someone hanging on me ALL the time. It doesn't mean I love her any less but I bathe her, feed her, put her to bed and I need a little ME time! So, I totally get that. I'm sorry about your car! We are 1300 in the hole until we get caught up which will probably take until Oct 10. I'm MAJORLY stressed. School starts friday and our first paycheck is Sept. 10. It'll probably take a month to get caught up. AAHH! The stress of teaching, but that's something else that irritates me about DH. He also works at a school but I still get paychecks over the summer. Except they come in a lump sum in June. He didn't get paychecks over the summer and he also won't work. It really irritates me. Even if he would have found SOMETHING to do this summer, we would be better off. He did apply for unemployment just for the 7 weeks he didn't get paid (he did make some money teaching summer school which I also had to do). I SERIOUSLY hope he gets it because this is STRESSFUL! (Sorry for the novel comment).
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about the car troubles. That is always a pain to deal with. I know what you mean about the SAHM comments. My husband is careful about saying anything like that to me, but it still irritates me that he comes home and wants to just relax. I know he needs it, but when do I get a break. Being home all day with your children is awesome, but there is a lot of stress too.
ReplyDeleteWow, 11 months!! Can't wait to hear about the birthday plans and how much she weighs. I am just hoping Kate gets to 14 pounds by her first birthday. She is really clingly right now too.